October is often a busy time for many families. With fall approaching (at least theoretically, in Austin), school back in session, and Halloween just around the corner, it’s easy to get caught up in the seasonal rush. However, it’s important to pause and recognize that for many grieving families, October can mark the beginning of an especially difficult time. As the holidays approach, this period—often extending from October through Valentine’s Day—is filled with gatherings, parties, and family events, all of which can stir painful memories and difficult conversations about loss.
October is also Perinatal Loss Awareness Month, with October 15th recognized as World Perinatal Loss Awareness Day. Amid the heightened focus on reproductive justice and loss in the media and this election cycle, individuals who have experienced perinatal loss may feel particularly overwhelmed during this time. For those affected, it might be helpful to step away from the news and avoid social gatherings that could intensify their grief. Support from others might look like understanding and respecting this need, allowing them space to navigate their emotions without pressure to share their story.
If you know someone who has experienced perinatal loss, it’s essential to approach their grief with sensitivity. A compassionate response might be something like, “I know you’re carrying a lot of heavy emotions right now. I’m here for you, whether you want to talk about it or not—whatever feels right for you.” Remember that those who have experienced perinatal loss may hesitate to share their story, often out of fear of judgment or unsolicited advice.
Being supportive means listening attentively, validating their feelings, and creating a safe space for them to express their grief. It’s important to be prepared for the possibility that their story could be painful or even traumatic. Many people who have gone through such loss may have been told their experience is "too much" for others to handle, leading them to silence their pain.
To those who have experienced perinatal loss, we hold you in our hearts—especially during this month. The loss of a pregnancy, infant, or child is profound, and grief does not follow a timeline or adhere to limits. While not everyone who grieves needs therapy, almost everyone needs community. We hope you find yours, and if you need support in doing so, please know that RPC is here to help.
If you're looking for further reading on Perinatal Loss these blogs might be of interest to you:
Perinatal Loss Support
Honoring Grief and Love
